I started this blog a few years ago as a way to chronicle my coming-out-later-in-life experiences. At the time, I had very little besides this blog as an outlet for my real self. Now, I have a life, lived as myself, all the time! But I’m still working on making space for who I am and who I’m becoming.
Here, I’ve written down my soul, talked about adventures in cooking, told you who I think is hot this week, and tried to let other women know it’s OK to come out, come out, wherever you are.
Now I post over at Soprano Out: A Lesbian With High Notes – come on over and join in!
Note: my blog header is called Matilda’s Bedroom, and it comes from Cute ‘n’ Cool Blog Accessories – check them out! Not your mama’s vintage. Unless your mama was a flapper with a bit of sass, of course.

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November 4, 2009 at 1:02 am
susan black
merci !!!!!!
merci !!!!!!
merci !!!!!!
November 4, 2009 at 5:43 am
makingspace1
Check your email and send me your addy and I’ll send you the chocolate!
February 3, 2010 at 5:43 pm
Belle
Hi there,
The comment you made on the awakenings blog really resonated with me tonight. After having a not a very good day to say the least, I came home and made a cup of tea and sat at my laptop, only to read what you wrote. You truly touched me.
Thank you so very much
February 3, 2010 at 7:51 pm
makingspace1
Welcome Belle! I’m glad my comment there touched you. It’s a rocky road we travel, so nice to give each other a little rest on the journey.
February 4, 2010 at 12:25 pm
Bella
Yes it is, you have inspired me to start my own blog. Feeling rather nervous about it. But thought it would be cheaper than therapy, lol. I have so much to share, not sure where to start.
Take care
February 4, 2010 at 8:22 pm
makingspace1
Hooray! Look forward to seeing your blog!
February 26, 2010 at 7:35 am
Kelly
Once again we would like to congratulate you for being a finalist in the 2009 Lezzy Awards hosted by The Lesbian Lifestyle. Attached in a graphic you may proudly display on your blog. Please consider linking the graphic back to http://thelesbianlifestyle.com/the-lezzies/
The Winners of each category will be provided with a “Winners” graphic once the votes are tallied and announced on March 3rd LIVE on The Lesbian Lounge Podcast. I would like to invite you to listen in to the podcast that night and join the chat room while Denise and Donna do their show live. To listen to the podcast and find out if your blog one please go to mylesbianradio.com and click on LISTEN NOW on March 3rd at 9pm EDT. To join the chat room and talk with myself and other listeners click on CHAT ROOM and then CHAT. There is no need to register.
Good luck!
Kelly
Managing Editor
http://www.thelesbianlifestyle.com
I could not find an email address on your blog. Please contact me at goldstardyke@gmail.com to receive your finalist graphic.
February 26, 2010 at 7:46 am
makingspace1
Thanks Kelly, I emailed you with a detailed response on The Graphic Link Situation (ominous music playing in background). LOL I am so honored to be nominated and finalisted, and I am promoting the vote every way I can all over my interweb travels.
Thanks again!
May 4, 2010 at 1:26 pm
Tracey
Love your blog. Resonates as I’ve come out in the past year myself. Thanks for your insights.
May 4, 2010 at 9:35 pm
makingspace1
Hi Tracey and welcome! Come by any time, I usually have chocolate cake and pixie dust to spare. Heh.
November 28, 2010 at 4:33 pm
Bonnie
Hi…I came out at 46 and am now 50. It’s been an experience that, I swear, includes every emotion that ever existed. It is currently sucking big time, but its wonderful to know that there are others like me out there that act too young for their age, sometimes, because they came out so late in life. Kinda like a 14 year old in a 50 year old body. Not always a pretty sight….
November 28, 2010 at 5:34 pm
makingspace1
Hi Bonnie and welcome! Make yourself at home here, I post frequently – and repetitively, if the truth be known, so you’ll get familiar with the place rather quickly, LOL.
Some parts of that delayed adolescence ROCK, and some parts really suck. I’m sorry your current situation isn’t making you happy. I’m sending you happy life vibes with this message. You (and I, and everyone coming out late in life) deserves them.
For some reason as I was thinking about your comment, I was remembering a passage from Joanne Fleischer’s book Living Two Lives http://www.amazon.com/Living-Two-Lives-Married-Woman/dp/1555839185/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1291001450&sr=1-1 – she talks about the phenomenon where we look at anything going wrong in our lives and assume it’s because we came out. She said she spent a lot of time worrying about if her kids were doing this or that annoying or distressing thing because she was gay. It took her a long time to learn that they were just doing it because they were kids. LOL Anyway, I don’t know if that relates in ANY way to your current level of life suckage, but I think it probably applies to a lot of us. It’s that internalized homophobia thing of “well if I could just be straight again (or pretend to be straight again more likely) then this or that wouldn’t happen.” And the truth is we just don’t know. I know as many straight women as gay women who go through huge life transformations in their forties. I wonder, in fact, if there oughta be a Women Changing Our Lives In Our Forties group or something. Heh.
Anyway, welcome, pull up a chair, make yourself comfy, and comment at will. This place is my haven, and I am glad to welcome new folks.
December 7, 2010 at 7:42 am
El
I thought, “felt like” rather, I came out later in life… at 30. I was married for 12 years, and we had 5 children.
But, actually, a year later… I feel like a brand new person who has her whole life ahead of her.
I’ve really enjoyed what I have read of your writing so far. I can relate to a lot of what you have written about fear, withdrawl, wanting, making space… etc.
I’m glad I’ve found you.
December 7, 2010 at 4:36 pm
makingspace1
Hi El, and welcome! Your blog rocks, thanks for stopping by and hope to hear from you again.
December 21, 2012 at 4:00 am
Em
Aw. The link to her blog no longer works and now redirects to monster.com.
Too bad.
December 21, 2012 at 4:34 am
MakingSpace
Ah well, people do come and go in the blogosphere. I notice it especially when people are coming out later in life. They blog the intense, transitional time, and then when that’s over they move on to their new lives and do other things. I understand it, but I always miss them…
January 20, 2013 at 2:17 pm
Em
Agreed. But then I think how long it took me to settle down in a blog identity and I wasn’t even dealing with coming out! There are people who don’t blog anymore that I miss terrible though!
January 20, 2013 at 2:59 pm
MakingSpace
Yes, there are several I miss dearly. I would love to know how they are doing.
January 13, 2013 at 1:14 am
Jet Black
Coming out at any age is to be celebrated. I did it the other way round, I came out around 17, although the whole coming out process happens in small and big ways over a much longer time. There’s oneself, friends, family, work situations, the world, etc. And sometimes, there’s coming out as Jewish which can be harder.
Funnily enough I don’t mention being a lesbian on my own blog, but I’m very out about being Jewish, which is quite different to my physical life. Interesting!
Thanks for sharing and thanks for reading and commenting on my blog. I will be following you.
Jet
January 13, 2013 at 6:26 am
MakingSpace
Hi Jet and welcome! Thank you for your celebratory words – and yes, coming out is certainly an ongoing process. Apparently, whether as lesbian or Jewish!
Thank you as well for reading and commenting. May more perky croquet and less nebulizing be in your future
April 23, 2013 at 9:17 pm
lifeofawillow
Hey. Ive nominated your blog for a leibster award. You do not have to accept, i simply thought it deserved notice. As always, i really enjoy your blog and i thank you for enriching my life with it.
- v
May 7, 2013 at 9:05 pm
Amy
Thank you, LOAW! I’ve been reading your poetry in recent weeks and I find it deeply moving. I am honored. I will respond with an acceptance – but over at Soprano Out, which is, essentially, a continuation of this blog. Much appreciated.
May 8, 2013 at 1:01 am
lifeofawillow
Happy