I’ve been contemplating action vs. allowing in recent weeks, and I’ve been struggling with the balance between the two. Generally speaking, I have felt somewhat off-kilter – as if my actions have been largely born out of anxiety, and what passes for allowing has merely been indecision and emotional confusion. I suppose that this makes sense, given that I have emerged from several months of action that followed upon a longer period of something that looked much more like hibernating. But it seems that the rhythms of my life feel this way – movement appears small or not at all while great changes are happening underneath – and then I take some external steps. Now, as new circumstances enter my life because of those recent external steps, I am looking for a new rhythm. Because it does seem to me that I have awakened to the possibility of combining allowing and action. But still, it’s a clunky dance, and I’m stepping on my own and others’ feet as I learn the steps.
So when I found this new poem from Oriah Mountain Dreamer today (she posted it on her Facebook page), I felt relief. Oriah’s words provide a reminder that when fear and anxiety cry out that action is essential, there is a deeper reality.
Waiting
To wait when waiting feels unbearable
When action seems imperative
But there is nothing to be done.
To trust that what is needed will be provided
When human resources are limited and needs are great
And distrust is more available, but divisive and destructive.
To accept
What is unacceptable
Because to fight with what is adds suffering to pain.
To be attentive
When the mind is clouded with exhaustion
So that opportunities to hold with tenderness are not missed.
To be with the anxiety that arises in muscle and bone
Not letting it drive action or paralyze
Allowing breath to create mercy around the anguish.
To take a break
When the fear-driven mind screams for constant vigilance
So the mind and heart and body can find respite and rejuvenation.
To receive the help offered
From others and from the Great Heart that holds us all
Letting gratitude temper grief,
fullness counter fear,
and compassion carry us all.
~Oriah

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July 20, 2011 at 5:26 am
grumpygranny
Thank you.
I SO needed this today. SO needed it. More than you will ever realize.
Especially this line: “So that opportunities to hold with tenderness are not missed.”
Thank you. Thank you.
July 20, 2011 at 6:58 am
makingspace1
You’re welcome. Be easiest of all with yourself, OK friend?
July 20, 2011 at 6:14 am
Kate
Because sometimes, you just need to stop to breathe. (Yeah, and I needed to hear that too.)
July 20, 2011 at 6:59 am
makingspace1
Such beautiful thoughts, yes?
July 20, 2011 at 7:34 am
Kate
So very much so.
July 20, 2011 at 12:41 pm
Natalie
It’s such a delicate balance…one I’m not so good at sometimes. It sounds like you’re doing great!! (And you can always tell people to wear steel-toe boots.)
“To take a break
When the fear-driven mind screams for constant vigilance
So the mind and heart and body can find respite and rejuvenation.”
I need to tattoo this somewhere…
July 20, 2011 at 1:02 pm
makingspace1
Yes to all of that…
July 20, 2011 at 3:18 pm
8thdayplanner
I lurve this poem. I am prinitng it and taping it on computer so I read it every day. I need to read it every day.
Thanks for sharing it.
July 20, 2011 at 11:18 pm
makingspace1
You’re welcome – I’m going to re-read it right now, I need it very much myself!